I want to share an experience I recently underwent that really helped solidify a preexisting stance that I had on an approaching dawah or calling to the way of God. I have a cat and she is sweet and playful. I love to chase her around my house trying to catch her as she craftily works her way over to her favorite petting spot in our home. Every know and then I am able to trick her and put an obstacle in her typical escape route. She runs because she feels like she is on the defensive. She isn’t sure what to expect from me and attempts to get to a place where she feels comfortable and secure. When she hits this unexpected roadblock in her escape route she quickly does a 180 degree turn and looks me stern in the eye. As I get closer, this wonderful cat changes it’s personality by hissing and raising its claws in ultimate defense mode. I suppose this is where the saying of “cornered like a cat” comes from. Something beautiful and enjoyable can easily turn into something mean and irrational when placed in a situation of feeling “cornered.”
The same is true for humans. I was on Devon wearing a shirt that said “sabr” (patience) in Arabic script. As I was walking to my destination a woman passed me and said “Excuse me sir, Excuse me sir, I read your shirt and it says “sabr”. Can you please explain to me what this “sabr” means.” I asked her, “You can read arabic but you don’t know what this common term means?” How obvious can you be that you are trying to play someone? It instantly registered with me that she was an Arab Christian who then attempted to proselytize me. In my opinion, her points were ridiculous and actually entertained me. My purpose for writing this is not to highlight her flaws in thinking, but rather something more important. Although her thinking was flawed, her methodology was more flowed and was actually offensive. Here I am, on DEVON, Pakistani part of devon on my way to an EXTREMELY important meeting and some woman decides she has the right to not only interrupt my day’s business but also offend me.
Her methodology was this:
1. To assess my level of knowledge/intellect. How did she do this? She asked me to define terminology in an attempt to see if I would trip myself up. What terminology you might ask? Allah, who is Allah? Sabr, what is sabr? You follow Muhammad, don’t you know what kind of man he was? She was trying to find out if I was knowledgeable or if I was susceptible to her weak arguments.
2. To affirm that her perspectieve was superior to mine by demeaning mine. This was done by her talking AT me rather than WITH me. She said things like ”Where do you get your sabr/patience? Surely Jesus the lord must have given you patience and he gives all to everything.”
3. To pass out literature to convince me of what her words could not. She said “I hope by the lord Jesus Christ that you will read this pamphlet.” I said, “I would love to read this booklet, thank you very much! I hope that you too will show respect towards me and pick up the Qur’an to read.” She said, “I have already done that!” I replied “And I have read several pamphlets by evangelists as well as the bible and many other books of Christian theology, but it is of my ettiquettes to respect you, your papers, and your faith and I will unquestionably read your pamphlet regardless of whether or not I already know the information.” At that I said, “May God protect you” and walked away.
4. When all else failed, to insult my beliefs. As I walked away she repeated “Your prophet married a 9 year old and is a dirty pedophile!” (For the record, I set her straight about this earlier in our discussion when I told her that her Christian Arab ancestors did the same thing and of all the accusations the people at the time of the Prophet made against him, not one accused him of pedophilia. As a matter of fact, as of 100 years ago the minimum age for marriage in the US was 10 years old in several states! Christians, Jews, and polytheists all supported the idea that it was ok to marry a girl who has reached puberty and at that time in that part of the world that was the typical age of puberty for women. Let us not hold our modern standards to earlier ages.) I smiled and continued to walk away saying one last time “May God protect you.”
Her methodology resulted in me wanting to pull out my claws and hiss just like my cat! I held back; however, she further reinforced my hesitancy to discuss matters of religion with “message delivering” Christians closing yet another door for Christians to attempt to make me accept Jesus peace be upon him as divine. I do not waste my time talking to people of this methodology for they are extremists in their religion and intolerant of differing beliefs. By the way, it has been told to me that there are a group of Christians that go to Devon a few times per week (Sam Shamoun’s peoples) and adopt a similar methodology to this woman in order to harass and terrorize Muslims. They think they are saving our souls but are merely giving us headaches…
Well let me tell you what. For all you evangelists out there, you should already be aware of the fact that your actions bring people FURTHER away from your cause. When you do not have proper etiquettes in this secular society you actually offend people and force them to create shields not only towards you, but also towards all who are similar to you. Poorly inviting people to share your beliefs hinders your effectiveness. This is a fact that cannot be denied …
Now to the reason why I shared this story. Muslim’s also be aware of how you do dawah or invite people to Islam, because you too can become an “evangelist” or proselytizer. Many of us unintentionally come across to non-Muslims in the same manner that the woman described above came across to me. We should not forget the ayaat in Qur’an specifically referring to the proper guidelines of dawah.
“Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious.”
Noble Qur’an 16:125
Now, I do not mean to be inflammatory but merely realistic. If we go out in groups, pass out literature to people, and are confrontational then are we living the verse of the Qur’an listed above? In my opinion, no! We must understand that this in your opinion might be dawah, but in all reality it is counterproductive to our cause. I understand that people come to Islam through this avenue or at least it appears as if they do. I hear stories of people who go out and get several shahadahs in a day. As a convert, I simply do not come across any other converts in our community who came to Islam this way. Perhaps they recited shahadah, but then where have they gone? The practicing converts I personally know almost all have the same story. They were not compelled by words of others to accept Islam, but rather the truth of their words via validation through their actions. This leads me to another ayaat:
“Let there arise out of you a band of people inviting to all that is good, enjoining what is right, and forbidding what is wrong: They are the ones to attain felicity (bliss)”
Noble Qur’an 3:104
In this ayaat the concept of our actions speaking louder than our words is reinforced. Why has Islam become so vilified in the West? Because of ACTIONS not by words or by pamphlets. I personally believe it is a disservice to Allah Azza wa Jaal to say that going out in public and passing out literature is dawah. For, dawah must be done through wisdom and beautiful preaching. Through my experiences I have concluded that the most effective invitation to Islam is through our good conduct and impeccable characters. After all, is this not how Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhi wasalaambrought others to Islam. If he had not been the amazing person that he was and his conduct as stellar as it was, would God have chosen him to be his Mercy to mankind? So we should follow this in our approach to introducing Islam to others. Be cautious that you do not fall into the pit of proselytization use this impedes our ability to spread the truth about what Islam is. Let us not turn others away or offend people by being rudely argumentative and disrespectful to their beliefs. Instead of doing street dawah you may be more effective by joining a charitable organization as a volunteer and using your character to validate your beliefs to the people you work with and the people you encounter through your charitable efforts. If you engage society or your community with the beautiful embodiment of Islam as your character, the community has NO evidence to indicate that Islam is not beautiful!
So, proselytizers of all faiths! Do not think that passing out paper ir standing on the corner with a megaphone is truly propagating the Message of God. If you want to convince me that Islam, Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, Athiesm, or any other ism is the true way to worship God then your actions better speak louder than your words!
End of story…
May God protect us all!
For those of you familiar with America’s Bad Boy, Loon, he now goes by the name Amir Junaid Muhadith. He accepted Islam and left his life of ignorance and hedonism. Check out this 30 minute interview he touches on the effectiveness of true dawah which is through the actions of people not just through words. Dawah should be a pleasant experience for the receiver or else their displeasure will be manifested throuigh their rejection of your invitation. Enjoy…
Ibn Yahya
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disclaimer- this is merely my opinon, I would love to hear other opinions!

